Are you really comfortable there, in the comfort zone?
Do we really have to get out of it?
A few days ago, a potential customer called me. He wants to sort his life out a bit, deciding which way to turn, what to do. In the preliminary conversation, I usually tell a little about what personal training is and how it is conducted, and each time, as the case may be, different examples come up to illustrate my words.
He asked me, with some skepticism, whether I was successful with all the trainers I work with. Good question and in its place. Skepticism is a good measure, it makes us look carefully at everything in qzz in your life, which saves quite a few disappointments. I told him I had definitely failures as well. When I recall those cases, they can be divided into two main groups:
In the first group are the cases where I am the one who made mistakes. These are the times when I was too quick to ask questions, I was busy asking or not listening well, or not holding back and offering solutions, rather than relying on the client and his intuition. These are mistakes by almost every coach in the beginning, and I was not spared any regrets.
In the second group there are very different cases. What they usually shared was the trainee’s lack of commitment and unwillingness to get out of the comfort zone. The potential customer was a little surprised by my answer, and asked: “Anyone who comes to the training already, and it is not a very cheap process, is not very committed, and is not ready to leave the comfort zone”?
Well the answer is a bit complex, but its short version is definitely “not always”. It is true that those who want to achieve new and meaningful achievements, take a turn in life or business, are required to leave the comfort zone and do things that were difficult for them in the past, or were not ready for them at all.
However, the challenge is sometimes too great or too early. When exercising or exercising needs to take a certain step, they are the ones who need to choose it, and do it wholeheartedly, even when the body or heart is still debating. Sometimes, such a step requires giving up the ego, or momentary embarrassment, or actual discomfort.
Everyone has fears and fears, no one is immune to them. It’s worth remembering, it doesn’t just happen to you. The real courage is to do actions despite the fear. Whenever a person enters the unknown realm, he will feel discomfort and even fear. its obvious. There is no point in saying “when I stop being afraid, then I will,” because you may have to wait a very long time.
The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to do it. If you do it enough times, practice and never be afraid. Then it will be time for fear to talk about what is new, to do and to move forward.
Susan Jeffers, an American author, writes in her book “Feel the Fear and Do It After All” (2012) that it is easier to work and move through fear and action than to live with a sense of helplessness that comes from a lack of willingness to face the challenge. The book has so far sold over 25 million copies worldwide, helping the masses overcome their fears.
And about the comfort zone. The comfort zone is defined as a psychological state in which a person feels that things and situations around him are familiar, he is comfortable, feels that he is in control of his condition and environment, and he feels low levels of anxiety and stress. Psychologists Yerkes and Dodson (1909) called this condition the “optimal state of anxiety.”
In this situation, the person’s functioning is more or less constant. And here’s exactly the “thorn”. In this situation, there are no breakthroughs, no peak performance, no extraordinary progress. All of this happens when one dares to go on adventures that are outside of the above area.
Suppose you are very angry with someone, maybe your boss, or a client, and yet you understand that you need to take some action that will benefit you in the long run. In order to take this step, you must overcome your internal resistance, and it is not always easy.
Sometimes you’re just not yet ripe. I have already had cases where something did not work out for a trainee or trainer at a certain time, came back a few weeks later when the conditions matured or “cooked” the trainee inked. The same goes for me.
Almost every day, I myself am required to get out of my comfort zone, and it usually doesn’t come easy for me. And certainly not “comfortable”. Otherwise they wouldn’t be called out of the comfort zone. Every new stage, every step of the way, every summit that we want to conquer puts us ahead, which of course includes me, a new comfort zone that we must abandon. But that’s just where things happen.
Only in this place, where it is a little difficult to stand, and even more difficult to move, only there is a pent up energy waiting to erupt. Such energy that once it is released, after having dealt with the various inhibitions, washes, floods and brings us to do what was previously difficult to do.
We will not be confused. Inhibition is a very positive thing. A person without inhibitions is a person without boundaries, unrestrained, acting without regard to reality or those around him. This sometimes results in disastrous results.
Our fears also play an important and positive role. They guard us from the dawn of our existence, making sure that we are careful about situations that are dangerous to us. But being left in fear, a prisoner of concern, means not being a man, or not being a free man of choice. And what kind of person are we then?
A person without inhibitions can get in trouble or hurt others and complicate them. But inhibitions that stop us from moving forward, fulfilling our dreams, are the impediments that need to be removed, and those that keep us in the comfort zone, the area we know. Only when we can shed these inhibitions on us will the truth, reality be revealed, and it is usually much easier than we previously thought. Take a risk !! Usually, once you put your foot in the water, it’s not really cold anymore, and once something starts to happen, the sequel is much easier. The first step is tapping.